be kind

I just read the cutest blog that gave me a sweet reminder: 

About a year ago, I sent my husband a list of things that I thought that he might like to see me do around the house.  I asked him to put the list according to priority, from greatest to least.

Here is the exact list that I sent to him:

 -clean, ironed laundry

-yummy meals including lunches

-fresh, homemade bread for your sandwiches

-keeping up with emails

-thank you notes

- outreach in the community

-hospitality/ having people over

- making sure there are cookies or something yummy for you when you get home (including tea)

-a clean, picked up house

 And, this was his exact response:

“Thanks, but I would rather have you put aside anything/everything you have to do in order to start each day with the assumption that I LOVE YOU, and therefore anything I do or say is given the benefit of the doubt that I LOVE YOU.

 Get enough rest and say no to enough activities so that you have the energy to be NICE TO ME (and the kids) when I’m home.

 Honestly, I appreciate the rest of it, but don’t really care that much if it comes at the expense of the first two things up at the top of the list.  Maybe you think that I think you’re a bad wife or mom if you don’t do this stuff. If so, that is wrong. I would much rather have a messy house, make my own lunches from white, store-bought bread, have no snacks, etc. etc., but have a nice, happy wife who likes me, than the other way around.

 So, to sum it all up, showing me you love me has more to do with WHO you are than what you do!  It’s my best friend I fell in love with and want to hang out with, not my maid!”

I have not been a very nice person earlier this week...This reminded me that I needed to be kindness at the top of my list. I needed to make sure that I was kind to the great and wonderful people in my house. 

 I am sorry!!

Love you all Joyce