I have a friend that I date, Kevin . We have this great system because men have this great sense to fix things. Women sometimes just need to vent. So Kevin often ask me "am I fixing this" at first I was what ever. Then I would go on to get frustrated with him because he was doing what men do best "fixing". So now when I call and I need to talk the first thing out of my mouth is "I am venting or you are fixing". It has cut down on us wondering what our roles are.
I have decided to fix me and find out what exactly I want in a relationship and so that I am able to be happy with myself. Along with having a relationship, I want to get out of debt so when I am done with school I will be able to really work and have no debt. Needless to say I am reading Dave Ramsey. Which is all about debt and getting out of debt. In the middle of the book I found this: (relationship stuff)
1. Men love to share facts, women love to express feelings
2. Men connect by doing things, women connect by talking
3. Men ten to compete, women tend to cooperate
4. Men tend to be controlling, women tend to remain agreeable
5. Men tend to be independent, Women tend to interdependent.
I know if I remembered this I would often be better off. I am reading The Dance with Intimacy. It about how women can change a relationship by looking at themselves. But I just started the book. S
I agree with Dave's list, except frequently I'm on the other side of the list. I have a tendency to go to facts, to do rather than talk, to be a bit competitive, a bit controlling, and definitely independent. That's my comfort zone. Perhaps that's what gets me into trouble. ;)
ReplyDeleteIf you or Kevin haven't read the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" READ IT!!!! It tells us the major differences between men and women....awesome book, in my opinion...
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